During early childhood, we begin to form a “self-concept” and our parents play an important role in shaping our self-worth. We have difficulty with loving ourselves when our parents are either detached or over-involved. .
When our parents have limited involvement in our lives as children, we have no one to mirror and we receive limited or no encouragement. This results in us feeling confused about what we really want in life. We look around and see other people enjoying their lives, loving their jobs, feeling good about themselves. But we feel empty, numb, depressed, and very small. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When our parents are overly involved in our lives as children, the excessive control over how we ‘should’ be in the world limits our ability to self-reflect and really understand our thoughts and feelings. This can manifest as confusion, anxiety, and/or depression. We end up having difficulty with making decisions for ourselves and figuring out what makes us internally happy. (Note: these parents mean well, but constantly overseeing our choices and experiences prevents us from creating the emotional space to make our own choices, our own mistakes, and to form resiliency)
In both cases, we end up lacking confidence and self-esteem. This is when we tend to seek external validation because we are unable to internally validate ourselves. The good news is that our brain is able to re-wire when we practice becoming consciously aware of our struggles and care for them with self-love and self-healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️
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